Has your relationship cost you your dignity? Has your dignity taken a back seat to pleasing your partner? Have you sacrificed your dignity to keep your relationship afloat? Is it really working? What else did it cost when you tossed your dignity aside for your relationship? It has most likely made you very unsure of your place in the relationship. When your dignity suffers, your self-esteem suffers. Insecurity can do a lot of damage to a relationship. It is a downward spiral, and the insecurity usually just grows and grows. It’s hard to recover when your dignity falls all the way to the basement.
You may have thought you were doing what was best for your relationship to keep it going. But what you did is skirt important issues that needed to be addressed. When you sweep things under the rug, and don’t take care of the problems as they occur, they only get worse. Their influence begins to permeate every area of your relationship. You know in your gut when you are going against your soul. When something feels wrong, don’t do it. Let your intuition guide you, it will never steer you wrong.
It may seem, at the time, the easiest way to handle things. Why make a big deal about it if you don’t have to? Why not be the bigger person? Why risk making it a bigger thing? The answer to those questions is because something in your relationship is breaking, or already broken. If you just ignore it or don’t fix it, the relationship falls apart. Your dignity needs to follow you throughout your relationship, you can’t leave it behind. If your romantic partner’s words and/or behavior triggers you to do something beneath your dignity, it is up to you to address it. You need to change your response and behaviors in an effort to bring about change in your partner as well.
Your dignity isn’t gone for good. You can always get it back. But in order to get it back, you are going to have to make some serious changes. You also have to be realistic going forward. Your romantic partner may not like the fact that you are taking your power and dignity back. They may try and do everything in their power to prevent that from happening. Don’t let them prey on your weakness. Stand firm and do what you know is right. Stand up to them and stand up for yourself when you feel it is necessary and proper. Show them this change in you is a permanent one. It will help them accept your changes and will force them to realize they have to make some changes of their own.
If the relationship is too far gone, then you must accept that. Letting go of a relationship that has and will continue to cost you your dignity is for the best. Get out of the toxic relationship and give yourself time to heal and rebuild. Take the time to find yourself again. When you do, you will be ready to enter another relationship armed with confidence, dignity, and self-esteem. If you don’t give yourself time to heal, you will just attract the wrong person and the wrong relationship.
This is one of many reasons why rebound relationships don’t work out long-term. Some do, but for the most part, they really don’t. Healthy people make for healthy relationships. Until you get healthy again, your relationships will be plagued with issues.
This also applies to soulmate relationships, so please check our article Have You Lost Dignity with Your Soulmate?