Social media is a way for us to keep in touch with family, friends, loved ones, and even strangers. Social media started out as a great, positive way for us to draw closer to people that geographically may be far away. But all good things have a bad side, and social media has ruined many relationships with friends, family members, and romantic partners. So how did such a good idea go bad? For starters, social media has become a way for us to make our personal feelings public, which is not always a good thing. What should be a private matter and discussed privately often becomes fodder for anyone watching to comment on something they truthfully have no business being involved in. In the old days we were taught to mind our own business, but in this day and age, it seems we are forced (or choose to) mind everyone’s business. Privacy has gone out the window, and it has taken a toll on our private lives. When we can’t speak our minds to the one who has offended or hurt us, we speak our mind to the world by posting about it on facebook or twitter. Sure, it may feel good to get things off our chest, but does it really get us anywhere, or just cause more damage? In many cases, relationships under the social media microscope simply don’t make it. The damage done is often irreparable, and once something is put “out there”, there is no taking it back.
And why do we feel the need to air all our dirty laundry for all to see? Are we really seeking help with our relationship problems, or have we just found yet another way to act out? Does it really matter if 900 of your twitter followers agree that you were right in an argument you had with one person? Isn’t it between you and that one person? Isn’t their opinion or feelings only the ones that count? Think of a relationship like a country. The only people in that “country” get a vote, decide the rules and laws, and have to adhere to them and work out there problems and keep the country running smoothly. No one outside that country gets to determine policy, or have a vote. So why do we think it is a good idea to get outsiders “help” when they are not a part of the relationship?
Sure, getting advice privately may have a certain benefit, and that you can get PRIVATELY from your friends and family. You don’t need to disclose private details of your life to someone you only know because you both play “Candy Crush” or some other facebook game, do you?
Our private lives should be more private, and should be worked on privately, or with the help of a professional. Social media should not be used as a tool to fight with, hurt, or embarrass publicly someone you claim to care about. When you do things like that, it can take all the intimacy out of your relationship. Who wants to tell you their innermost thoughts and feelings knowing they may someday be a part of a social media rant someday? More on this later…..