There are good reasons to stay in relationships, just as there are bad reasons to stay in a relationship. Every relationship has its share of ups and downs. If your relationship is a good one, you have plenty of good reasons to stick with it even when the challenges are really difficult. You have to take the good with the bad because the good makes it all worthwhile.
If your relationship has more bad times than good one, it may not be worth it anymore to keep hanging in there. You may think you have good reasons for staying in the relationship, when they are actually the worst reasons to stay.
One of the worst reasons to stay in a bad relationship is the worry that you will be lonely without them. Are you doing all the work in the relationship as it is? Do you have the opportunity or feel comfortable talking to your partner? Can you share you feelings and experiences with them? Do they include you in their day-to-day life? If the above answers are no, you are already lonely. Don’t stay so you can be lonely, leave so you can find a real companion.
One of the all time worst reasons to stay in a relationship is your fear of hurting your partner. We have all known or heard of someone who stays in their relationship because they believe their partner cannot survive without them. While that sounds gallant, it is actually egotistical. They can get over the loss of you as opposed to staying with you when you really don’t want to be there. Why not let them find someone who truly wants to be with them and loves them? Wouldn’t that be better for them (and you) in the long run? It is nice that you would feel guilty for hurting them, but you are living a lie. Eventually the truth will come out, won’t it? Why not go through a temporary bad experience by breaking up instead of subjecting both of you to permanent discontent? You both deserve better than that.
Your partner may have made you believe that if you lose them, you will never find anyone else. Your experience and time spent with your partner may have brainwashed you. You may have a fear that no one out there will want you, so you stay. This is one of the all-time worst reasons ever. No one should stay in a relationship like this. It is better to be alone than to be with someone who makes you feel so unloveable. The reason they put this in your head is to keep you around. They believe that if they convince you no one will want you, you won’t leave them. Then they can treat you however they like without fear of you dumping them. This is the worst kind of manipulation. It lowers your self-esteem and self-respect. Get out while you still have some left.