Considering ending a relationship? Here, in part two of our blog we discuss more questions you should ask yourself before ending a relationship. Another good question to ask yourself is why you have remained in this relationship in the first place? Is it really because you love your partner? Is it for financial reasons? Are you in this relationship because of the lifestyle you get to enjoy? Are you more afraid of losing things than you are afraid to lose the person? Staying in a relationship for things will never bring you lasting joy. Love not things bring people true joy and happiness. Things can be replaced, people and love cannot. So, if the only reason you are holding back from ending a relationship is because of the things you might lose, it is time to end it. Let go of the things you are staying for and find love instead. Relationships are meant to bring us love, not THINGS.
Another good question to ask before ending a relationship is: Is the chemistry or spark gone? A fire, any fire will go out if you don’t add kindling, wood, or something to it. It simply runs its course and dies out. The principal applies to relationships. If you are bothered by the fact that your romance has no sizzle, could it be because you have not done your part to make it sizzle? The romantic flame won’t keep burning unless you both continually add to it. If neither of you is, expect the flame to die out. Before ending a relationship, why not try and see if your relationship can rekindle again. What happens to often is once the fire leaves our relationship we look elsewhere for it. We simply believe that if the spark has died it must have run its course. This is not always true. ANY romance will lose its chemistry or have it die down if it is not nurtured. So, before you seek it elsewhere, understand that your new flame will burn out for the exact same reason.
Another great question to ask yourself when you are considering ending a relationship would be: “Am I comfortable with my partner”? If you can be yourself and are accepted for who you are, you may reconsider ending a relationship like this. When we have the freedom to be ourselves and are loved simply by being ourselves, that is a relationship worth hanging on to. Not everyone will allow you the freedom to be yourself and support you every step of the way. If you are compatible in ways like that, as opposed to liking the same movies or music, you have found a special relationship. Many people hold on to relationships that make them uncomfortable rather than comfortable. Being insecure, needy, clingy, controlled, or suppressed all come from being afraid. Fear and love cannot co-exist in a relationship and have it be a good one. Do not confuse love and fear. If you are too fearful in a relationship to express yourself, it may be time to let it go. If you are too fearful to be yourself, again, this relationship should end.