We are continuing on with our previous blog post about relationship misunderstandings. Another prime example of relationship misunderstandings is in expressing emotions and feelings. Many men and women for the most part just do not express their emotions or feelings in the same way or at the same time. Women tend to choose words first as their means of expressing emotions where men often choose their actions first before their words.
Woman also often feel that if they have feelings, they should be expressed, so they do. Another one of the top relationship misunderstandings is that a lot of women tend to believe if someone has feelings they will talk about them. And, if they don’t have feelings, they won’t say a word. This is not true in many cases. When a woman feels things, many feel they need to express them the second they feel them. And why not? If it is a positive emotion and is complimentary why shouldn’t they? Makes perfect sense. However, many men don’t feel they should talk about their feelings just because they feel them. They add their own logic to the equation many times. They may feel they are caught up in the moment and the time might not be right so they wait to express their emotions. They may quite often feel the need to analyze and think about those feelings before they express them. They may want to wait to choose the right words or the right way to express them. So, just because a man isn’t blurting out his feelings doesn’t mean he doesn’t have any. The reverse is the same. Just because he isn’t expressing his emotions verbally doesn’t mean he has them and is just hiding them either. Don’t assume either way how he feels until he tells you himself. You can see how assuming one anthers feelings or lack thereof can cause one of the most common relationship misunderstandings of all.
Communication is another area where relationship misunderstandings happen. When women have problems or something on their mind, they often want to talk it over with someone. A great majority of men want to solve their problem on their own, and don’t feel the need to talk about it unless they really need help. Women often think that if a man doesn’t share his problems with her, he must not feel close to her or care enough about her. Women can feel shut out or left out when their partner does not let her know what is on his mind or bothering him. Some men feel they should solve their own problems, and that sharing their problems puts a burden on the woman they love. So, they keep it to themselves to spare her any worry or upset. In many cases they feel they are doing a very selfless thing, while she views it as selfish.
And another way relationship misunderstanding come about in communication is men’s tendency to make a woman feel he is not really present when she is talking to him. When she talks, she very well may want to him to look her in the eyes (and not look at the t.v) and just sit there and listen. Many men however feel the woman is talking to him because she wants his input, not his ear. He listens and feels the need to interject, and when he does, she gets mad. She wants to talk, she wants him to listen. She winds up frustrated because she feels he doesn’t listen to her, and he is frustrated because he thought she asked for his help and doesn’t seem to want it.
It is very important to try and keep relationship misunderstandings from getting out of control. A simple misunderstanding can be handled graciously and will do no long term permanent damage. However, relationship misunderstandings can get way out of control and cause the ending of a relationship. Before you let relationship misunderstandings ruin or end your love affair, speak with a relationship life coach like Sarah Adelle and Sophia Elise.